Tuesday 4 December 2018

21 THINGS I HAVE LEARNT, SINCE TURNING 21




Just because I have turned 21, I don’t feel any wiser however it is fair to say I have imparted some wisdom to share amongst you. I have experienced life through school, moving out, university, shopping and learning about the environment. Adulting, responsibilities, money and juggling everything isn’t that fun but it is a learning curve. Learning from our own or even others’ mistakes is beneficial to saving money and time. I am in no way saying I know everything but these are some things I do know that may help you out. 

1 Being happy is the most important thing

2 Buying a reusable water bottle/coffee cup can reduce a crazy amount of plastic

3 Care less what other people think, even though it can be hard

4 Long distance relationships can work

5 Social media is not your life. Your life shouldn’t revolve around social media. Do things for you 

6 Life is short and we should embrace it

7 Your family will always be there for you

8 No matter how many bra fittings I go too, I still do not understand my bra size

9 Things aren’t easy sometimes but they do get better

10 Before buying an item, analyse; if you need/love it, it will go with other items in your wardrobe and if you feel good in it

11 School is tough but you can get through it

12 Kindness goes such a long way

13 Tumble drying clothes that have the do not tumble dry symbol on shouldn’t be tumble dried. 

14 Unidays doesn’t last forever, make the most of it

15 Nude bras are best when you’re wearing white

16 Appreciate the little things

17 You get what you pay for. Invest in items such as clothing, electronics, shoes, etc. that you know will last and you need them

18 Don’t get dragged down by others negativity 

19 Who my real friends are and that they will be there for me when I need them

20 Sleep is pretty important 

21 Exercising can help your mental health and physical body health for the future 







Sunglasses // New Look
Bag // Chloe 
Necklace // Missguided, Kate Spade
Jacket // Miss Pap
Jumper // Primark 
Jeans // Gap 

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Tuesday 13 November 2018

The Slave to the Scroll



The new generation have been bought up glued to their phones, it is like second nature to them, so much so it has become part of their identity. It is almost as if there is something within our phones that programmes us to become addicted. We all depend on our phones for maps, alarms and googling how to cook eggs, but how do we know when we’ve taken it too far? 


Part of the problem is we only feel accepted if we achieve a certain number of likes, therefore we are becoming more and more obsessed. Depending on what other people think of us, rather than what we think of ourselves. However, it is important we remember to be present in day to day life. Our day shouldn’t revolve around our phones as we only show our online persona. We are all our own person and shouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves in person and online. The people who take time to give us their attention, are the ones we should appreciate. They are there because they want to be and not just craving attention or projecting boredom online. 


It is so easy to spend hours scrolling though absolute nothing, of people we do not really know. It is just what they want us to see. Yet we waste so much of our time staring at their feed or reading their tweets. On the new apple update it lets you know your screen time. There is nothing more terrifying than the reality of how much time you waste on your phone. Picking up our phones just because we are bored is becoming an unhealthy habit that the younger generation depend on. Time that could be spent elsewhere, learning something new or taking time for ourselves. 


It is important we rest our minds and not constantly rely on social media as we will always have the urge to scroll. When I was on a seven-hour flight it felt so weird having my phone in my hand and yet not checking social media. As long as we are constantly scrolling, our minds are struggling to keep up. Social media can fill up our minds so much so, that it becomes hard to cope. Only will we feel good about ourselves is when we can empty our minds by breaking away from social media or following mindfulness. The hours we spend on Instagram and twitter leads us to compare our lives to others. When the people we follow can barely be relatable and may have a completely different lifestyle. Resulting in a negative impact on how we feel about ourselves and others. Instead of enjoying our free time on our phones, it can make us feel like shit and yet we will continue to scroll… for eternity. 



When I met up with the blogger Charlotte Hole and discussed social media and the addictions teenagers could be developing, she gave me the perfect quote ‘the slave to the scroll’. We are all a slave to the scroll and most of us do not even realise. 



Thank you so much for reading, please let me know what you think.

Love Tishhlah 





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Saturday 17 March 2018

What it is really like being in a long-distance relationship


Honestly, I have experienced all of the emotions in my relationship and I bet it is different for everyone, however this is my experience.
It can be really hard being apart from someone you love for a significant amount of time. Whether you’ve had a great or tough day, sometimes you'll just want someone to talk too or a hug, it can suck not to have them there. The longer you are apart the more you can miss them and find yourself reacting in different ways. However, when you are young and finding out who you are and growing as a person, it can be good to have some space apart. It is good to be independent and not relying on someone all of the time.

 Trust. This is the biggest aspect you need in a relationship. As in most relationships trust is really important, however when you are hours, miles or even countries away from them, you have to trust them. Otherwise you could just be sat at home worrying or assuming the worse, when in reality they are telling the truth. If you have been betrayed in the past, it can be easy to bring that into the current relationship (they are not the same person). Equally being honest with one another is just as important.


Communication is essential, when you are both living different lives, it is good to share your day with one another. Listening to someone’s day and showing that you are there for them is reassuring and can bring you closer. The distance may put a strain on your relationship and you’ll take it out on the other person. However it will strengthen your relationship and allow you realise what you have. If you ever feel shit or have a problem that will put tension on the relationship, tell them and if they love you they will understand, text, skype or call! My boyfriend has even written letters to me, which may sound like the cheesiest thing. Yet it reassures me how much he cares and it is exciting getting happy things in the post.

 The best thing about being in a long-distance relationship Is finally seeing the other person. It allows you to appreciate one another and the time you have together is special. Anything you do, it doesn’t matter as long as you are spending time with them. When it is weeks, months, etc. apart it can feel like it is going so slowly. The best thing to do is focus on your own life and embrace what you have, whilst looking forward to the next time you’ll see them.
Saying goodbye is hard, once they have left you do feel like something is missing. If you are used to them being around all weekend or sleeping next to them, the bed can feel pretty empty. It’s hard at first but then it’s time to get back to your own life, keep communicating and look forward.

I have been in a long-distance relationship for three and a half years (4 years total) and there will always be sceptical people that may not think it can work. It can work if you both stick it at, even when it gets hard, just try to stay positive. (If you both love each other and want it to work, you’ll both put the effort in).


 Love Tishhlah x

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